Teacher Tells of Plight of Xiamen Teen with Cerebral Palsy



A special education teacher in Xiamen told how a once happy teenager with cerebral palsy was hurt by people who seemed to show consideration for him but apparently lacked respect for the disabled. Names have been changed to protect the privacy of those involved.

15-year-old Ah Ze is a cerebral palsy sufferer but not mentally disabled. He was an optimistic boy until the boarding school rented a new dormitory for him.

Ah Ze, who would be left alone in the room in the afternoon, told the teacher what he had experienced:

Some visitors of his landlord would stand around him and stare at him. Ah Ze even overheard some people saying, “What an unlucky kid,” and “It’d be better for children like him if they were never born.”

Ah Ze felt humiliated by a man who tried to give him some cash. It is unfair for anyone in his position to be automatically treated like a beggar.

A rude child asked him whether he was a cripple or a beggar. Ah Ze was close to losing control of his actions when he was asked whether he had parents by a middle-aged woman.

Ah Ze would cry thinking of these unpleasant experiences.

He can tolerate people giving him curious or sympathetic looks, but the disdainful looks he sometimes gets are very upsetting for him as he can feel those people think he shouldn’t be alive.

6 out of 100 people in China have disabilities, but most of them stay at home. Disabled beggars and tragic stories of tortured orphans and families with disabled children going broke perpetuate the public bias against people with disabilities.

They form a vicious circle: the more pressure the parents feel from public bias of having children with disabilities, the more ashamed they will be of the situation. The disabled children growing up in this kind of society ore those who become disabled later in life will feel that their life is meaningless and they are useless. This only enhances the bias.

We can contribute to breaking the vicious circle by treating disabled people equally without being sympathetic or feeling pity for them, and helping them when they really need it.


SOURCE: WOX & CP Sapling of Xiamen




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